Valentines Day 2024

Or …

On God’s Providence

I almost bought this hilarious Valentine’s Day card for my husband.

Backstory is we met on CatholicMatch five years ago! I know dating sites don’t work for everyone but it certainly did for us!

For me, it was certainly an exercise in trusting God’s judgment.

I’d expected to meet a husband while getting my undergraduate degree, but didn’t. I also didn’t meet him while in grad school. I felt behind the curve. From a strongly Catholic homeschool background, many of my friends were already married. And I had no prospects. So while at grad school, I joined Catholic Match.

I had been on Catholic Match for several months prior to the first message from my eventual husband. I had talked to a few people, some who messaged me, some who I messaged. I had also spent hours looking through the site for possible matches. I had wasted hours answering superficial queries about myself and indulging stagnant small talk (not all small talk is pointless but this was).

Through a great deal of prayer, I concluded that God would send my spouse to me and he’d have something meaningful to say. I was no longer going to message men first myself and I wasn’t going to answer one word messages. I had to trust God to give me my spouse. Incessantly searching for him myself was only harming my mental and spiritual health. I also needed to surrender my preconceived notions of what my husband would be like. Mind you, this didn’t mean lowering standards of shared values, etc. I simply accepted that I wasn’t wiser than God and that God would answer the years of prayer I had faithfully offered daily for my future spouse.

Not two weeks later, my now-husband messaged me a meaningful question about my life.

I’ve always said that if I had been allowed to build a husband, I couldn’t have made him more perfect for me. He’s everything I needed and wanted and more!

We’ve been married for three and a half years, have two kids so far, and own a house together!

So God’s Will and His answer to your prayers is out there waiting for you! And it’ll be even more wonderful than you could’ve imagined when you find it!